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Adab In Islām May 23, 2007

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In the name of Allah the all Merciful, The most Compassionate

إن الحمد لله نحمده وستعينه ونستغفره ونعوذ بالله من شرور أنفسنا ومن سيئات أعمالنا إنه من يهده الله فهو المهتد ومن يضلل فلن تجد له وليا مرشدا ونشهد أن لا إله إلا الله وحده لا شريك له ونشهد أن محمدا عبده ورسله

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All praise is for Allah. We praise Him, we seek His aid, and His forgiveness.
We seek Allah’s refuge from the evils of ourselves and from our evil
actions. Whomsoever Allah guides then none can misguide him,
and whomsoever Allah misguides then none can guide him.
We testify that none has the right to be worshipped except Allah,
alone, having no partner, and we testify that Muhammad
is His slave and His Messenger.
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Umar Ibn Al Khattab (رضى الله عنه) narrated:
“I heard the Messenger of Allah (صلى الله عليه وسلم) say: “Actions are but by intention and every man shall have but that which he intended. Thus he whose migration was for Allah and His messenger, his migration was for Allah and His messenger, and he whose migration was to achieve some worldly benefit or to take some woman in marriage, his migration was for that for which he migrated.”
(Bukhari & Muslim)

The one who seeks knowledge to fight quarrel or debate, to compete with the people of knowledge, to get attention, fame, or has any other ill intention; then Allah (سبحانه وتعالى) will enter this person into hellfire. Some seek knowledge for worldly reasons and fame, hence it is important to purify our intentions, before acquiring, or seeking knowledge.

Adab in the “Modern” World

Perhaps our greatest need in today’s adab-less society is really to look at our simple courtesy, our adab, the significance of our social behaviour, so we can take heed to the fact that as Muslims, we’re not just defined by the way we dress or our look. Muslims, Jews, Sikhs, Christians, many people grow their beards for example, the distinguishing factor though that makes the believer stand out, is not the length of his beard, but his adab. When we see a Muslim with a long beard and jubba, we are the first to say Masha’Allah, but when was the last time we said Masha’Allah to the adab, the manners, and the etiquettes of others with us? The true essence of adab is that no person is harmed by that person’s actions or tongue.

“A complete believer is he from whose tongue and hand (actions) his fellow Muslims are safe”.
(Bukhari & Muslim)

Sadly in today’s society, many Muslims are increasingly gaining a somewhat immoral, corrupt, deceptive reputation. The fine line between right and wrong has become increasingly blurred and the need for guidance in terms of moral guidance has never been greater. The following story was related by a famous scholar from the asian sub-continent:

“A man came to visit a scholar with his son. They travelled some distance to come, by train. The train fair for adults was classed as 13 and above which seemed quite expensive to the man, as his child had just passed the age of 13. When they arrived to see the scholar, he enquired of the journey, and how it must have cost a fair amount of money for them to travel there. The man told the scholar, “Oh no, my child looks under 13, so his fair was half”. The scholar then told the man of the great sin he had committed. This was not only a major sin, but the man was guilty of theft and deception; by carrying out an act to ‘save money’.”

This story highlights that we are often so obsessed with a good act, we become blind to the major sins we may commit and be teaching to our children. We may think on occasion “Oh we’ll get away with it”, but the ethics of our conduct with others are effectively what will be held to account on the Day of Judgement, so how can we become so blind to the scale of sin we are committing? It is all well and good for us to be devoted Muslims, praying 5 times a day, fasting, giving charity etc, but these are just a few branches of Islam, it’s our akhlaaq, our mua’malat (acts of welfare or good with our fellow Muslims) that really define our characters, and our true identity as believers. When we look to perfect our own characters, we must look at the greatest example Allah (سبحانه وتعالى) sent to the believers as an example. The Prophet’s (صلى الله عليه وسلم) character was such that his actions emanated mercy, patience, kindness, gentleness, justness, and sincerity to all.

Anas (رضى الله عنه) said:
“I served the Messenger of Allah when he was at home and on journeys from the time he came to Medina, to the day he died (صلى الله عليه وسلم). He never said to me about anything I had done, ‘Why did you do this?’ nor did he say to me about something I had not done, ‘Why didn’t you do such and such?’

(Al-Adab Al Mufrad)

Anas (رضى الله عنه) said:

“Whenever Allah’s Apostle greeted somebody, he used to greet him three times, and if he spoke a sentence, he used to repeat it thrice”.

(Sahih Bukhari: Book of seeking permission)

Many non-Muslims, reverted due to His (صلى الله عليه وسلم) noble manners. Today, how many people revert to Islam because of the character, manners and etiquettes of the Muslims? The state of our affairs is now such that some non-Muslims are better in manners than Muslims. Even the etiquettes of bartering leave us to take things to such an extreme, we become so miserly we want everything for as cheap as possible. We don’t care that the seller may be making a loss, or that his heart is not content in the sale, we just want, want, want. When we’re driving on the motorways, how many of us give way to other drivers or get road rage? When was the last time you got angry at someone that overtook you? SubhanAllah, we need to take a step back and really take a look at how just we are with others. Do we have even a grain of mercy or patience within us?

The Prophet (صلى الله عليه وسلم) said:
“You must be gentle. Whenever there is gentleness in some matter, it adorns it and whenever it is taken away it disfigures it.”

Such was the obedience and eagerness of the companions, subhanAllah, that after the revelation of this verse; it is narrated by Abdullah ibn al Zubayr that whenever Umar ibn al-Khattab wanted to speak to the Prophet (صلى الله عليه وسلم). He would talk almost in whispers to the point that the Prophet (صلى الله عليه وسلم) could hardly hear him and would ask him to repeat what he said. Such basic issues are continually being ignored amongst the Muslims everywhere. In the Quran, Allah (سبحانه وتعالى) addressed the companions of the Prophet (صلى الله عليه وسلم):

يَا أَيُّهَا الَّذِينَ آمَنُوا لَا تَرْفَعُوا أَصْوَاتَكُمْ فَوْقَ صَوْتِ النَّبِيِّ وَلَا تَجْهَرُوا لَهُ بِالْقَوْلِ كَجَهْرِ بَعْضِكُمْ لِبَعْضٍ أَن تَحْبَطَ أَعْمَالُكُمْ وَأَنتُمْ لَا تَشْعُرُونَ- إِنَّ الَّذِينَ يَغُضُّونَ أَصْوَاتَهُمْ عِندَ رَسُولِ اللَّهِ أُوْلَئِكَ الَّذِينَ امْتَحَنَ اللَّهُ قُلُوبَهُمْ لِلتَّقْوَى لَهُم مَّغْفِرَةٌ وَأَجْرٌ عَظِيمٌ
“O you who believe! Raise not your voices above the voice of the Prophet, nor speak aloud to Him as you speak aloud to one another, lest your deeds become fruitless and you perceive not. Those that lower their voices in the presence of Allah’s apostle, Allah has tested their hearts for piety, for them there is forgiveness and a great reward.”
(Quran: Surah al-Hujraat, verses 2-3)

Lying, breaking promises, becoming foul mouthed at the first sniff of anger, how many of us are guilty of this, and forget the imminent warnings:

إِنَّ الْمُنَافِقِينَ فِي الدَّرْكِ الأَسْفَلِ مِنَ النَّارِ وَلَن تَجِدَ لَهُمْ نَصِيرًا

“The hypocrites are in the lowest levels of Hell and you will not find anyone to help them”.

(Surah an-Nisa :verse 145)

Narrated by ‘Abdullah bin ‘Amr (رضى الله عنه) : The Prophet (صلى الله عليه وسلم) said, “Whoever has (the following) four characters will be a hypocrite, and whoever has one of the following four characteristics will have one characteristic of hypocrisy until he gives it up. These are: (1 ) Whenever he talks, he tells a lie; (2) whenever he makes a promise, he breaks it; (3) whenever he makes a covenant he proves treacherous; (4) and whenever he quarrels, he behaves impudently in an evil insulting manner.”   (Sahih Bukhari & Sahih Muslim)

A Muslims akhlaaq should be such that others trust him. It is only when we put into practice the example of the Prophet (صلى الله عليه وسلم) that we will truly achieve love for him and truly please Allah (سبحانه وتعالى).

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Comments»

1. shamim - May 24, 2007

Subhanallah…you have really put a wonderful effort in with this blog and mashallah learnt quite a bit from it about Adab…Jazakallah and May Allah reward you for your efforts Ameen 🙂

2. Ruqaiyah - May 24, 2007

I’m working my way through this website at the moment, but the layout is humble and the use of Arabic and English at the same time is even better. I don’t understand Arabic fully myself, and I’m grateful to you for making it easier for me to learn about Adab in Islam. Hope to learn more …..good job!! Jazaakallah 😀

3. Fats - - May 26, 2007

Masha Allah, keep up the good work. Insha Allah we can all benefit from reading this blog, alhamdu lillah you have put a lot of effort into it and insha Allah may you be rewarded for it. Nice layout, easy to read, and great features beside the blog make this truly a heart-warming book of texts to read. May Allah guide us on the straight path, let us strive to do good deeds, and may He forgive us for the sins we commit in the past, present and future and may He pleased with us. Ameen.

4. soulscripture - May 26, 2007

Ameen.
Jazakhum’Allahu khairun 🙂 …please let me know if any improvements/changes can be made inshaAllah…
Fi Aman Allaah
SS

5. Br Shahid - May 29, 2007

Alhamdulillaah this is very important Adab in Islaam may Allaah swt help us

6. Sumayya - May 30, 2007

Masha Allah it’s a very useful site May Allah reward you well Ameen ……it’s wonderful Masha Allah

7. Saf - September 3, 2007

Masha’Allah..I was informed about this site just a few minutes ago. This is the first time i heard of it. I will spread the link as it is a very beneficial collection of notes. May Allah reward you immensly insha’Allah.

8. soulscripture - September 3, 2007

JazakhumAllahu khairun… please feel free to also visit: http://adabinislam.blogspot.com/

9. Ismail - September 25, 2007

Mashallah excellent site!


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